“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”
James 1:19-20
We often emphasis on what they have done to us.
Actually, we need to pay attention to ‘Why?’ more.
When you ask ‘why?’, you have to listen first.
When they have a good reason, you are likely to be angry with the circumstances rather then what they have done.
So when someone is being an idiot, ask ‘Why is he being an idiot?’
When someone is being a devil, ask ‘Why is the person being a devil?’ Just kidding on the devil part but do ask why.