Even if you can’t do anything for your daughter, she is still your daughter. Thozeka (Wendy) was Helen’s first student.

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
 
Matthew 6:33

One of the first things I learned about leadership was how to process information.

We often think what is this mean to me? first. However once we do that, the following thoughts are influenced by my shortcomings.

It should be
What does it mean to them?
What does it mean to God?

Then it is easier to understand God’s will on many things.